The British poet Byron was born in a noble family. Although the family conditions are good, Byron’s natural lameness, Byron’s character is somewhat introverted and sensitive. While studying at Cambridge University, Byron had few friends, but he also wanted to be with his classmates.
Once, Byron went to the library to read a book, and accidentally saw several girls around him pointing at a boy and said, “I like this kind of boy who studies hard, it’s so charming.” Later, they left the library together. And they talked and laughed and looked friendly. Byron suddenly thought, maybe he could use this method to attract the attention of his classmates, win praise, and maybe make some friends.
So, Byron would sit in the library every afternoon to read books, and he would pick those thick and bulky books, and it would be an afternoon. Finally, Byron’s concentration on reading books attracted the attention of some students. However, when he overheard what the classmates were talking about, he was extremely disappointed-“The boy with several books in front of him is really like a nerd.”
Byron is both angry and wronged. He is also reading a book. Why is it that other people are very attractive, but they are like nerds? Hearing Byron’s complaint, the librarian smiled and said, “That’s because they met before, the boy brought fruit to a few girls for eating, and praised them for their beauty and hard work. He was praised because he paid Praise, and you just sit there and don’t expect it to be praised, isn’t it reasonable?”
The librarian’s remarks relieved Byron’s confusion and taught him how to interact with people. After that, Byron tried to let go of his sensitive self-esteem, actively communicate with his classmates, and generously praise himself. Later, Byron slowly got acquainted with his classmates, and his friends became more and more.
Byron once wrote in an article: If you are eager to get praise, you must learn to praise others first, learn to actively communicate with others, instead of doing nothing, waiting for others to find your flash point. You know, sometimes it’s not what you are doing that determines the attitude of others towards you, but your relationship.