Children have the right to participate in family, cultural and social life, and have the right to participate in life related to themselves. This is not a choice but a principle.
A survey found that children who often participate in family management have a cheerful personality, care about others, and have a strong sense of self-confidence, responsibility, and collective sense; while those who never participate in family management, they will always be self-centered when dealing with others Think about the problem and get used to relying on and waiting when things happen. It can be seen that letting children participate in family management not only meets the child’s development needs, but also cultivates a healthy personality, which is an important way to promote the child’s personalization and social development.
Some parents may wonder, what is the right thing for him to participate in when the child is so young? In fact, family life is made up of small things. Many seemingly inconspicuous things can let children participate, such as the use of mobile phones, the management of pocket money, the matching of clothes, and even the decoration of the home.
Taking decoration as an example, the child is a member of the family and the family builder. Before the decoration, parents can ask him his suggestions for the decoration of the entire home, and let him decide the layout of his house. Children can also use this approach to communicate to parents the need to participate in family life. In the process of children’s participation in family management, when they independently decide what to do and how to do it, they will be accompanied by challenges and affirmations. They will gradually experience the rights and responsibilities of participation, and gradually improve their self-confidence and management ability.
In the process of children participating in family management, I have the following suggestions:
First, parents should pay attention to their children’s suggestions for family life. Don’t let the parent’s authority obscure the child’s ideas, and strive to improve his enthusiasm and initiative in participating in family construction. When talking about problems or discussing things in peacetime, parents can consciously ask their children, such as: “Do you have any good suggestions?” “What do you think can be done?” Let the children express their opinions in the family, often with him Conduct democratic and equal discussions on family life.
Secondly, parents need to integrate their children’s personal qualities, arrange reasonable family tasks for him, and cultivate their family management abilities. Tasks can be assigned according to the age of the child. The development of young children’s body movements, thinking patterns, etc. is not yet mature. Under the guidance of their parents, they can arrange some simple housework for them, such as deciding on the clothes to match each day or managing their own play. Time for the game, brushing the bowl, sweeping the floor, watering flowers, etc.
Finally, as the child grows older, parents can let go properly and give him more opportunities to exercise. Some families have tried to allow their children to be home for a week during the holidays, give him a certain amount of money, let him decide what the family will eat for three meals a day, and let him cook. As a result of these experiences, the child’s life experience is often richer and more frugal. Other families organize cultural and sports activities, giving children more opportunities and abilities to play an important role at home. After the child’s autonomy and independence consciousness increase, parents can let the child make a reasonable plan in the family’s common affairs, for example, when the family travels, let the child design a tourist route and act as a guide.
No matter how old the child is, there is a need to participate in family life. But some children are more introverted, shy to open mouths to their parents, or do not know how to express their inner thoughts to their parents. At this time, painting is a good way of expression. For young children, his parents encouraged him to paint, either on paper or on the wall at home. Children’s paintings are the child’s inner exposure, and an effective channel for parents to understand the child and build a better family life with him.
In short, the child is a member of the “family community” and has the need to participate in family life, as well as the responsibility and ability to participate in family management. Parents consciously encourage their children to participate in family management, which helps to build a happy family and helps children become true masters.