The power of good habits

   In early 1988, 75 Nobel laureates gathered in Paris to discuss the hopes and threats of the 21st century. A reporter asked a Nobel Prize winner: “Which university or laboratory did you learn what you think is the most important thing?” The old man replied: “In kindergarten.” The reporter was surprised: “What did you learn?” “Take your own Give half of things to children, don’t take things that are not yours, keep things neat, wash your hands before eating, apologize when you do something wrong, etc. Fundamentally, this is all I have learned.” It can be seen from childhood Forming good habits is the “fundamental” of life. Don’t many of our parents also regulate and demand their children in this way. Therefore, educator Ye Shengtao said eloquently: “What is education? Simply put, it is to develop good habits.”
   Friends around me say that I am serious in my work. When I think about it, it started with the “rubber incident”. When I was in the third grade of elementary school, my mother always said that my homework was sloppy, and the eraser was always in my hand. One day my mother took the eraser away, so I hurried to beg, and my mother said that you will be limited to three more days, and then you will not be allowed to use it. Since then, I have concentrated on writing every word with all my strength. Over time, I have developed a habit of being careful in everything I do. I clearly remember that when I was in elementary school, my parents put forward strict requirements and did my own things by myself. “Less is like nature, and habits are like nature.” Decades have passed, for example, when traveling for business and staying in hotels, no matter the conditions are good or bad, before leaving, the beds, quilts, table furnishings, and toilet utensils are neatly arranged and tidy as before. I went to the farmhouse this summer vacation. My grandson said that no one else will clean up. I said that we should clean up. One is to respect others, and the other is to show your literacy. It can be seen that good habits are cultivated from subtle points, “If you don’t accumulate a small step, you can’t go a thousand miles; if you don’t accumulate a small stream, you can’t make a river or sea.” Ten thousand feet of tall buildings rise from the ground, and small things are the root of big things.
   Habits are long-term, relatively stable, unchangeable, automated behaviors. Good habits are the most powerful guide in life, the basics of life, and the manifestation of virtue. It is like a bouquet of flowers, with inexhaustible benefits and inexhaustible savings; while bad habits are like rust, enough to corrode the steel of the soul and become a lifetime debt. Someone surveyed 148 outstanding young people and found that they had good behavior habits since childhood, such as: 60.13% insisted on completing the homework first when facing the game without completing their homework; 66.8% liked to do things independently; 79.73% felt angry about unfair things; 54.05% often stop bullying of classmates and so on. In addition, 115 death row prisoners were investigated, and poor quality and many bad habits were the source of the tragedy.
   “The hard things in the world must be done easily; the great things in the world must be done in detail.” The development of good habits is both difficult and important, and it depends on the four psychological processes of “knowing and doing”. The first is to explain the truth patiently, which is called “cognition”; to mobilize the positive emotions of the child to the parents’ requirements, that is, “passion”; the child’s self-consciousness will not form naturally, and it is necessary to constantly remind and supervise and hone perseverance, which is called “practicing the will” “; In the end, guiding the child to do it is the most important point, which is called “guiding”. The first sentence of The Analects of Confucius is, “Is it a pleasure to learn and practice it from time to time?” To learn to consolidate knowledge or knowledge, you must practice while learning, learn by doing, and develop good habits even more so, you must be precise, one person, one strategy. Recently, sister Liu, a neighbor, has changed her ways and stopped chasing points. She has thought a lot about children’s active learning, independent thinking, cherishing time, and establishing a sense of responsibility. She has cooperated with teachers to check and supervise every day, praise and criticize, and strive to form a learning environment. Consciousness and habit. She said, to develop a good habit, how can you “get used to” if you don’t get used to it? Parents are teachers of good habits. They must do their due diligence and don’t be too troublesome. Today we cultivate good habits in children, and good habits will make good children tomorrow. This is the most precious gift for children.