How to say “No” to your boss

Have you implemented every instruction from your boss? When you want to refuse, how to express correctly so as not to ruin your boss’s impression of you?

Saying “good” is easy, saying “no” is difficult
At 6:55 pm on a Friday, Su Chongbei (pseudonym), who works in a Beijing newspaper, was about to leave work in 5 minutes. She was busy with all the work for the day, humming Xiaoqu to pack things, ready to go on a date with friends. Suddenly, her phone vibrated. She turned on her cell phone, a message from her boss, and asked her to handle an urgent task immediately.

Should I stay overtime or insist on an appointment? Su Chongbei chose the former. She apologized to tell her friends who were already on the way to the appointment that she had to “release the pigeons” and then sat down at the desk obediently to deal with the urgent tasks that her boss had told her. She felt that her friend could make another appointment, but her boss could not offend.

“Do n’t dare to say ‘No, it should be a common problem for most professionals. Indeed, saying’ Yes, it ’s very easy, saying, ‘No, you have to endure a lot of psychological pressure. Sometimes, we worry that it may seem that we are not motivated. Heart, even afraid of losing a job; sometimes, we feel that we are incapable and need to find somewhere else to make up for it, so the boss can do whatever he wants; sometimes, we know that the boss is not professional, but dare not challenge the authority of the boss. Su Zhongbei said.

How to say “No” to your boss
Su Chongbei believes that if a subordinate has a better idea or has some difficulties at the moment, a wise and enlightened boss does not mind hearing the subordinates say “No”, “as long as we have a good reason and the method is reasonable”.

Career consultant Diana Amundsen told him, “Smart bosses appreciate people who can confidently say no to the boss. In fact, most bosses are willing to listen to the reasons for your refusal and what alternatives you plan to propose. .If you want your boss to accept your ideas, you need to value the methods and techniques of rejection. ”

Diana believes that if you are overwhelmed by your current job and your boss has assigned you a new job, you must not swell your face and become fat, and stubbornly agree. This will not only affect the current work, but I am afraid that the completion of new tasks will be greatly reduced, and it will also make you feel collapsed due to overloaded workload.

Say “No” to your boss, you should do it
How should we neatly say “no” to the requirements of the boss?

First of all, never say “No, I don’t have time” or “No, I don’t want to do it.” If you want to reject your boss’s request and avoid making him dissatisfied with you, you must give your boss a reasonable reason, and it is better if you can further propose a suitable solution.

Giving reasonable and credible reasons not only allows you to get rid of the complicated work, but also allows your supervisor to understand your current work situation. For example, you can say, “Sorry, I may not be able to attend this meeting, and there has been too much work lately.” You can also say, “I am not sure if I can take charge of this project because I am not particularly familiar with this field. This time Can you arrange someone else to take charge first and give me some time to prepare? I will take over similar projects in the future. ”

If you admit to your boss that your workload is saturated and you ca n’t take on more work at the moment, your boss may consider reducing your burden and letting you focus on more important work. If you tell your boss that you are working on a new field, I don’t know yet, your boss may provide you and other employees with relevant training.

When rejecting a boss, it is best to give an alternative solution.

Madeleine Mann is a columnist for “The Ladders,” an American job search site. She tells her story on “The Ladders.”

Because his writing was good, his boss asked Madeleine to write a speech for other colleagues. Madeleine, who did not want to write for a colleague, but did not want to reject it directly, replied to her boss: “Let him write the first draft. I will modify it based on the first draft. Can you see that?”

This answer is very clever, not only indirectly offloading himself, but also avoid offending his boss.

“The Ladders” pointed out that in the face of the extraordinary things arranged by the boss, we must understand that the task assigned to us by the boss does not care whether we complete it in the way prescribed by him, he only cares whether we can finally give He wants the results.

In addition to giving valid reasons for rejection and alternative solutions, it is also a good idea to let your boss decide for you the priorities on the worklist. When you are struggling with the task at hand, it makes sense to say “I do n’t have time” directly to the boss ’s additional requirements, but if you really say that, it will make your boss question your ability to arrange work and perform multiple tasks.

Therefore, what you have to do is not to refuse directly, but to let your boss decide for you what you have to do first and then what to do in the tasks to be completed. You can show him the work at hand and explain how much time it takes to complete it; if you stop the task at hand and start a new task, how long will the original task be delayed. The advantage of this is that while showing your work content to your boss, you also give your boss an opportunity to weigh the importance and priority of various tasks. Based on your boss’s judgment, you can make a reasonable and reasonable choice whether to pause the task at hand, focus on completing the new task, or put the new task aside and complete the existing task first.

Madeleine encountered such a situation. One time the boss asked her: “Should you make a personalized agenda for everyone who participated in the training today? Shouldn’t the training site layout work also be carried out?”

In these two sentences, the boss arranged two tasks for Madeleine. How should Madeleine answer?

“Yes. I am ready to finish the training materials today, meet with the supplier to ensure that the materials can be supplied on time, and send the training materials to everyone who participated in the training. Which of these things do you think I should do first? What about pieces? “Madeleine asked.

“Then don’t care about the layout of the training venue, it’s not that important. Do the other things first.” After listening to Madeleine, the boss said.

In these cases, say “no” with caution
Diana suggests that you set your bottom line early on. “If you don’t want your work to take over weekends or holidays, then at the beginning, you have to make it clear to your boss and put it first. If this happens in the future, your refusal will not be seen by your boss. So unexpected and abrupt. ”

Timing is also important when you reject your boss. “If your job performance has been terrible lately, or if you recently rejected a request from your supervisor, then now is not the best time to reject it. If you have performed well in your recent job and received approval from your supervisor, you can Say with confidence to the boss, ‘No,’ said Diana.

Of course, this does not mean that you can do whatever you want. Some reasons may seem right to you, but they are unacceptable to your boss.

If your supervisor has assigned you a very challenging task, and you have the ability to complete it, then don’t refuse this task because it will take a lot of energy. After all, all supervisors want their subordinates to work hard. It is estimated that no supervisor will like subordinates who refuse to execute because of difficult tasks.

Although you are not obliged to complete a task that is beyond your scope of responsibility, it is definitely not wise to refuse on the grounds that it is “not about me” when you are able to complete it.

Don’t refuse your boss for personal reasons, such as “I’m planning my wedding, I can’t get too busy” or “I’m going on vacation soon”. It’s best not to put personal matters above work unless your supervisor has approved your leave application or you already know your current situation.