be yourself

  In the restaurant, if you are not in the business, and do not trust the waiter to recommend, there are often two situations: First, eating from your family, watching for a long time, the result is not the cheapest or the most expensive mid-priced Wine; the second is to pay for the guests, think about it, and finally called a bottle of more expensive but relatively low cost.
  In both cases, our choices are not purely “we” because we always have a pair of eyes behind us, staring at us. The former is afraid of the waiter’s eyes. We are afraid that he will look down on himself. Therefore, he is not willing to choose cheap wine. If he chooses too expensive, he is afraid of hurting the purse. Therefore, setting the target at a medium price is a rational choice. The latter is afraid of the eyes of the guests. On the one hand, they worry that they are too embarrassed. On the other hand, they are afraid that they will not be tasted by their own knowledge. Under the reasoning that “you will probably be better,” you will simply bite your teeth and come to a high price. Let’s go.
  Choosing too much, so I am anxious. The Slovenian philosopher Salles told his story in The Tyranny of Choice. It was a high-end food store in New York. She went in and picked the cheese she had at the party. When she entered the door, she saw a variety of cheeses from all over the world. Since she is not an expert (in fact, how many people are there), she is just like a student, carefully study the description of each cheese, and understand their names, origins and flavors. With so many choices, it is simply a homework that can never be done. She was dazzled and even forgot the good taste she had tried before. Would you like to ask the guy who looks very professional behind the counter? I was afraid that he deliberately sold some expensive things that could not be sold. In the end, like many people who have encountered similar situations, she picks up a few and grabs the door.
  Afterwards, she found that the anxiety at that time contained several levels: First, she was worried about how the guests at the party would look at the cheese they chose; second, she was dissatisfied with the salesperson’s appearance as an expert and expert; third, she hated herself. It is a knowledge-poor consumer.
  If the world chooses wine and cheese as long as we choose it, it is a pity that it is not a paradise. It is never so simple, because it is a time of choice. You must carefully choose wine, cheese, mobile phones, furniture, clothing, homes, jobs and partners, and even you can choose your own body. Since the Age of Enlightenment, the liberalism that propped up the modern world view tells us that the blueprint of life is in me. It is meaningless and meaningful. It is up to you to decide. By the maturity of the business community, life has become more free, everyone has more choices, and choices are always about consumption.
  Life is a shopping trip, and the world is a supermarket. We not only consume goods, but also love love, because the way we think about calculating the ideal object is very similar to the way we judge the quality of a toothbrush. Some marriage counseling experts have also introduced the concept of “emotional deposits” to persuade couples to “invest” more and how much “emotional capital” they have saved. Only if the expenditure is not invested, the emotion is seriously “deficit”, and a partner is naturally a scorer.
  So free, so many choices, what else is there to be anxious? Yes, because all these choices are said to “express” our taste, and even “self.” Just like the example of wine selection and the story of cheese selection, but a bottle of wine and a few small pieces of cheese, it is a heavy declaration of who you are.