An acquaintance with a stranger

I was a teacher in a middle school. One morning, I passed a junction and saw a boy in a school uniform standing on the side of the road. The taxi passed by his side, did not stop, I looked at the table below, if the child is delayed, I am afraid that I will be late for self-study. So I rolled down the window glass and said to the boy: “Get on the bus, I will take you for a while.” The child was very unhappy, and said in a soft tone: “No.” I added: “I am You should believe me in the language teacher of a certain middle school.” The child was very impatient and yelled at me: “No.” Looking at his expression, almost called me to roll, I had to drive away.

I wear glasses and short hair. Although I am almost 50 years old, I don’t think it looks like a bad person. In fact, in the hearts of boys, I don’t seem to be like a bad person. What matters is that I am a stranger. Don’t talk to strangers. This is a classic sentence for parents to educate their children. A generation that grew up receiving such education from a young age is subtly imposing, and a mindset is created in the mind: strangers are all bad people.

I once recommended that students read a book, Fei Xiaotong’s “Local China”, which is about the traditional Chinese society. It is a society founded on agriculture, and that society is an acquaintance society. Because it is a native China, and the land is relocated, everyone grows up in the circle of acquaintances, and in a lifetime they are also among the acquaintances. Therefore, people rely on the credibility to maintain interpersonal relationships. In the circle of acquaintances, the law becomes dispensable. This is why Chinese traditional society does not emphasize the rule of law.

However, today’s China has become a stranger society from an acquaintance society. The population has poured into the original or newly emerging economic center of gravity, and the migration of the population has never been unprecedented. In this context, children should face strangers from elementary school and learn to deal with strangers. Because what you face when you grow up is a society of strangers.

Self-protection is an instinct. This instinct cannot be abandoned. However, in addition to the instinctual self-protection, there must be an open mind to deal with strangers in a calm manner. You think that strangers are all scammers. You think that a person who stops in the car for no reason, wants to take you on a journey, just wants to plot a misconduct. He claims to be a teacher. His sinful attempt is entirely intended to cover up. You feel self-righteous, self-satisfied, feel that you are vigilant, and smash an attempted adult attempt against a minor, but the result is that you are late, and the teacher is punished for a class.

Naturally, there are many scammers in the society. This is a fact. The rule of law is still not sound enough, and there are still many opportunities for scammers to take advantage of the loopholes. Public power can’t be completely locked into the cage of the rule of law, leading people to do anything. The first thing that comes to mind is to find acquaintances, because acquaintances are good at doing things. Therefore, the Chinese spend a lot of energy and financial resources on the relationship between the Latin and the Latin Americans. This is a great sorrow in the Chinese society. But what I want to say is that a society that only believes in acquaintances is definitely a jungle society; a society that cannot establish a friendly and trusting relationship among strangers must be a society that is a hundred thousand miles away from harmony. When children are deeply jealous and even hostile to strangers from beginning to end, they are actually shackling. The most important thing for a good civil society is to build trust between strangers, which requires the rule of law to eliminate negative factors that can lead to distrust. Our public safety department should focus more on how to prevent crime than on simply fighting crime. How to create a safe environment for children to interact with strangers is an important issue that our public safety department must solve first.

Opening the thick wall between strangers and allowing strangers to communicate with each other with frankness and trust is a step that must be taken when China moves toward a strong future. If we encounter something, we can’t ask strangers for help; if, when others need help, we turn a blind eye because the other person is a stranger, then Sartre’s famous saying “others are hell” may become a reality. And such a reality is how creepy!