Choosing too much is a misfortune
There is a popular Japanese drama – “My home is empty”. It is described that after the earthquake in Japan, the heroine Mai began to examine her life and decided to start living simply on the principle of minimalism. To what extent is Jane? There is only a short table in the living room for a family of four legs to eat; open the cabinet, only the right amount of chopsticks and bowls, in the closet, there are only barely enough to rotate clothes.
Before the linen was a girl, the notes were full of love for her boyfriend. When she was taking the test, she couldn’t help but write a confession. The whole room was filled with the collected items of the man who loved her. After breaking up, she opened her eyes and fantasized about how she was after her death. The police came in to clean up the scene and found that the girl had been collecting the rubbish of love: “There is only these expired memories in my mind.”
The linen after marriage experienced an earthquake in Japan. She was horrified to find that the various self-help items that were usually taught were not useful. Because the room was very messy and dirty at the crucial moment, she could not find a bottle of water, not to mention the self-help kits that had not been opened for a long time.
In addition to TV dramas, there is now a wave of young people in Japan who insist on “do not hold the way” in the case of extremely rich material. The function of homogeneity is never preserved, and things that are not applicable for a long time must be donated. Their clothes are simple, three meals are simple, and things that are picked up at any time are often used; the problem that comes to mind is long-term thinking.
The less things you hold, the more they understand that what is really important. Yamashita Hideo said that she likes the slogan proposed by Chinese readers for “breaking away from home” – “subtracting life and living in life”, and a famous book review in Douban more accurately summarizes the idea of breaking away: throwing away See things and change the invisible world.
Many of us often fall into the trap of thinking: I don’t wear that dress now, I can’t wear it when I am old; I don’t need those masks and cosmetics now, I won’t want to use it in the future, and high heels, Trinkets… As a result, you quickly discover that your cabinet is full of clothes, and your bedside table is full of expired masks and cosmetics. It seems that if you don’t do what you want to do now, you won’t be able to do it later; if you don’t grasp this relationship now, you won’t have it anymore. However, don’t focus on the future regrets, but fully enjoy the things, things, people in front of you, if you do this, then your life will become very interesting. This is the essence of the break: the subject is always his own, and the timeline is always the present.
Handle the relationship between you and the item
The ultimate goal of breaking away is not to clean the room, but to deal with the relationship between the object and the article through the process of cleaning up, to find out their inner needs, like the true self. In this process, we only need to consider whether the current ones like, need and fit these items, and don’t care too much about whether these items are still “useful”.
First of all, breaking off is not equal to throwing things. There are three stages in the break, which are separated, broken, and separated. The initial stage is home.
“Throwing things” is just the beginning of the break-off period. In fact, throwing things is simple, but it is difficult to do. We often can’t give up a lot of things, maybe we think it’s not bad, useful, or a gift from an elder friend, it contains some kind of feelings. If you look at yourself as the owner of your home, you will find that these items themselves are taking up our time and space. If the item can speak, it will also blame you for not having the value it deserves, but it will be left out for a long time. When you can bravely take the first step to sweep all the debris out of the door, stand in the open and bright room, surrounded by your favorite items, life becomes simple and pure, you will begin to re-recognize yourself and understand yourself.
The intermediate stage is broken. Thus, you can enter the second stage: break. Cut off unnecessary things into your home. Break is to let us live in the moment. Don’t break the silk connection when you don’t need items that you don’t like and don’t fit for yourself. Decisively sever the connection, don’t let them repeat the same mistakes and become the sundries in the house.
The advanced stage is away. When you are able to do well and break, you can also get rid of the obsession with the item and enter the state of “away”. You will know more about your preferences and better understand your inner needs. The messy material desires that have plagued you will no longer exist. Even if you are alone at the moment, you can calm down and keep your mood happy. In the end, we will understand more and more why Bill Gates and Zuckerberg are willing to donate more than 99% of their property, and we are always eager to have more…
So the first thing we need to do is to clear our minds in the brain, look around the items in our home, re-examine the relationship between ourselves and the items, determine which ones we really need, and then make a choice.
With a general idea, the first time people should follow the selection method from easy to difficult, choose a place where you think it is a lot of debris, and thoroughly clean up the local debris and achieve perfection. For example, if the balcony is full of waste paper boxes, we don’t need too much hesitation, we can clean them out. Objects that are emotionally implicated, such as gifts from friends, should be placed at the end to make a choice. After throwing away the extra items, how can the rest be stored and arranged in order to be convenient and neat? Yamashita Hideo proposed a good classification method for people with difficult diseases. That is to divide into three categories, and then subdivide the big, medium and small three categories in each category, and so on.
Taking the kitchen as an example, kitchen items can be divided into three categories: ingredients, cooking tools, and tableware. In the cooking utensils, it can be placed in the corresponding position according to the big, medium and small, so that there are only three types of articles, and the sorting will not be chaotic. The principle is: the invisible storage space is only filled with 70%; the visible storage space is only 50%; the storage space for others is only 10%.
At the same time, it is necessary to reduce the steps taken by the item. For example, if we want to take a pair of jeans, if the steps are: open the closet – then open the storage box – take out – close the storage box – close the door, at least 5 steps, but if there is a pants rack under the closet, I just want to take it Going straight to take this one step, is it simple and efficient? Especially in the case of people who are very tired, if the storage of items in the home can be reduced to 1 or 2 steps, the frequency of use of the items will be much higher. It is not a matter of once and for all, but a state in which long-term persistence and disconnection of material desires can be achieved.
Which ones should you throw away?
If you want to break off, start by picking up the items. For example, things that should be thrown away in the closet: only one sock, holes and loose socks; dry cleaners and cheap hangers when buying clothes; scarves and hats that are not worn; yellow t-shirts; A sweater that has not been worn several times because of pilling; a cheap and outdated coat; a short skirt for student days, a ugly dress to wear… In the closet, try to keep 20 pieces of clothing below, throw one and buy one more in principle. Sneakers that have not been worn in the shoe for 3 years; high-heeled shoes that are worn and uncomfortable; the heel wears shoes that are no longer comfortable; broken slippers. Old pillows; pillows that are no longer comfortable; sheets that are unwilling to be used; blankets that are no longer warm; towels that are no longer comfortable; sunscreens last year; empty cosmetic packaging and bottles; excessively hoarded plastic bags; Long-term straws and disposable tableware; not reading recipe books; seasonings that have not been used for three years, etc., as well as expired food in the refrigerator; cracked dishes and bowls that are not clean; Snacks that you don’t want to eat; old kitchen utensils such as a little bit of pressure cooker; you don’t know how long the sugar has been put. And old textbooks that I never watched; DVDs that I don’t listen to CDs; last year’s calendars; old data lines that are no longer needed; old computers, mobile phones, and old appliances that are no longer used. Old magazines, books that have never been seen before; a lot of useless bookmarks; travel brochures, movie tickets, scenic spots, transportation tickets; all kinds of wrapping paper, old cartons and various packaging, There is a warranty card. Various small tickets that are no longer needed; all kinds of things that children at home have not used; broken and unwashable toys, children’s things are generally not used for a long time, if they can be sold in the second-hand market, better . Then start cleaning up your mobile phone, no longer open after downloading, or use less frequently used apps, micro-businesses in the circle of friends, strangers not known in social software, accounts not interested in WeChat, mobile phone memory No longer watching the video, the broken charging treasure, the old phone case. The expired medicine that swayed in front of your eyes every day, the glasses in the drawer no longer use the keys, the keys that are no longer used, the old carpets that have not been used for a long time, the decorative candles, you will not use them for a lifetime, you always I thought I could use the obtained packing tape and bubble paper. Use it quickly and don’t throw it away. Almost the broken suitcase, you don’t know what the old keys and bad keychains are used, empty flower pots. (Either plant a flower or throw it.) A green plant that has withered or is about to die.
Finally, please clean up your heart and people and things related to happiness, past sad experiences, frustrations, grievances, and cold encounters. Until one day, you have this feeling: “When the heart comes, I take the clear river water and cook the fire. The dripping river makes me intoxicated. The little woodpile makes me happy.” This is Matsuo A sentence in the “Ji Xing” of Banana.